The Lure of Imagined Pleasure

An addiction for jelly donuts will never likely take over your life. When you eat a jelly donut, you get a reality check. You remind yourself that donuts are not quite the ambrosia you imagined. However, if you become addicted to sex with some particular extremely good looking person or a forbidden partner you never get that reality check. In your fantasy, you balloon the pleasure you would feel all out of proportion. That hooks you like a fish. A similar effect happens with a drug. You fantasise that the pleasure of the drug will be even better than it was the first time. In actuality, if you took it, the effect would be quite tepid. You are hooked primarily by the imagined pleasure of your imaginary drug. When you drop the fantasy and realistically evaluate the pleasure you would receive from satisfying your addiction, you take away its power. This applies to any addiction that you have almost no chance of satisfying.

~ Roedy (1948-02-04 age:70)