Is homosexuality a choice? Whether one decides to affect camp behaviour is clearly a
choice. Choosing to have sex with any given person is clearly a choice. This may be
the root of the myth that homosexuality (your sexual preference) itself is a choice.
You decide whether to act on your attractions, but you don’t decide your
attractions. Homosexuals can no more choose to be straight than straights can choose
to be gay. Religious con men claim otherwise. Imagine it were possible to easily
change your gender or sexual preference. Why would you want to mess with something so
fundamental to your identity?
Sex vs Sexual Preference
You may have known numerous people in your life that
have had gay sex one or more times. These people apparently acted out of free choice.
These sort of people are probably motivated by curiosity, adventure,
horniness… They were not driven by attraction to their
partners. It is possible for some straight guys to have gay sex heterosexual sex is
not available and for some gays, the opposite is true. But that has nothing to do
with changing sexual preference. Having gay sex merely requires closing the eyes,
focusing on sensation and fantasising and enjoying the blow job. It says almost
nothing about sexual preference. Sexual preference is about whom you find good
looking, whom you stare at, who makes your heart flutter when they come near, whom
you wish you could kiss, whom you wish you might share your life with…
Choosing Celibacy vs Choosing Sexual Preference
Obviously you can choose
whether to have sex or not. It is extremely difficult to be celibate when you are in
your teens or twenties, but it is possible to white knuckle it, but you can’t
through an act of will, change what turns you on.
Let’s for argument’s sake presume you are a straight male for whom
red-haired tall willowy women turn your crank. (If you are not, make the appropriate
adjustments to my following argument). There is no pill you can take, or no mental
discipline that will enable you to change so that you no longer find such women
appealing and instead find squat, hairy, dark haired ones the epitome of
attractiveness. You can’t, even in imagination, decide to find males more
attractive than your willowy red-head. If even you can’t
change your sexual preference this small amount, why do you imagine that gays can do
the reverse, an even bigger change? Your heterosexuality was clearly never a choice
for you. You did not wake up one day and I say, I think I will be straight. You just
noticed stirrings in your chest and attractions to the opposite sex that made you
blush and stammer. The same thing happens to gay people.
The Challenge
I often challenge heterosexual people with the view that sexual
preference is a choice to perform an altruistic act. Change to gay, then change back,
and write a book about how you did it. You don’t even have to have sex, just
change your preference. If it is a choice, you should have no trouble. They typically
respond, But I could never do that. Being gay is
disgusting. I respond, On my side, the idea of lusting
after pussy is even more revolting! You are just as constrained as I am and for the
same reason. The logical error they make is presuming that gays feel the same
way about heterosexual sex as they do. They flatly refuse to believe that to
gays hetero sex might smell worse than vomit, feel utterly revolting (like
masturbating with raw bloody liver), be immoral (because of risk of pregnancy in an
overpopulation world), be gross (like having sex with dogs), or boring (like having a
warm bath).
Most people can’t understand how others can blow their noses differently than
they do.
~ Ivan Turgenev (1818-11-09 1883-09-03 age:64)
Straight people trying to understand gays mistakenly imagine, that gays
experience the situation the same way they would, e.g. “Why would I tell people
I was gay and have revolting gay sex and refuse to have sex with the people who
really turn me on? Well maybe I want to piss my parents off, by getting three rings
through my nose, so that mucus continually drips and a giant ugly tattoo. Maybe it is
because I am utterly pissed off with the universe.”
Such motives would apply to them if they attempted to deny their
sexual preference, something they often demand gays do and pretend
to be gay. To a gay person, heterosexual attraction might seem crude like mountain
sheep rutting. It is clearly very closely associated with mammalian reproduction
(childbirth, nursing the way cows do). In contrast, gay attraction feels natural,
clear, pure, unsullied by reproductive lust, right, logical, egalitarian. Being gay
is being yourself. Being gay is telling the truth about whom you really are and whom
you really love. Oddly, straights keep pushing us gays to lie and live a life of
misery to live up their illogical, superstitious, bovine expectations.
Straights because they are the majority, refuse to believe that anyone else
experiences life in a different way than they do. It is as naïve
as imagining every creature experiences the world the same way an adult white male
human does. Straight males seem comfortable with the idea that women have different
sexual preferences than they do, but they are stuck on the notion that all other
males must at heart be identical to them. They refuse to believe we gays are serious.
Perhaps if we gays had some distinguishing physical feature, like square pupils, they
would accept that we are different from them.
I am not in this world to live up to other people’s expectations, nor do I
feel that the world must live up to mine.
~ Fritz Perls (1893-07-08 1970-03-14 age:76)
I have to suppress my revulsion for all the blatant heterosexuality
going on all around me. Straights do not think it weird that women have no sexual
attraction for women. Why are they so skeptical about gays? Even though I
intellectually understand, I still find it emotionally completely baffling when a
great hunk of a guy is attracted to some airhead female tarted up in layers of
makeup. He has nothing in common. What on earth would they talk about? I feel extreme
contempt for such females. It feels as if he has to be faking his
attraction, like watching movie actors perform.
Desire to Change
Many gays, especially when they are young, would give their
eye teeth to change their preference. They are sick of the abuse they have to put up
with. They have been tormented by Christians to the brink of suicide. Most gays at
some point at least toy with the idea of suicide to escape their preference. If there
were some way to change preference, don’t you think 90% of young gays would take it. No matter how painful, it would surely
to preferable to suicide.
Phony Cures
Christian predators who pretend they have a cure but when you dig into it, they are outrageous liars and
charlatans, much like the sadistic priests who treated nuns with wasp stings in
The Devils Of Loudun. I read four books on these religious conversions
that the evangelist Dr. Terry Winter gave me. What they call a cure amounts to white knuckling, marrying and then backsliding,
putting the wife through hell. The attraction to the same sex does not diminish. All
that diminishes is the frequency of sex with people of the same gender. The
attraction looms even larger from the repression. You end up with two ruined lives
from his hubris. There are groups that bleed naïve
gays of their saving in promise of a cure
It bears repeating, you can’t cure homosexuality because it is not a
disease. Further, nobody has discovered a way to change sexual preference.
Hard Wired
Dr. John Money did studies on sexual preference and discovered
humans get hard wired in before you are even two years old. This hard-wiring is
extremely stable.
Tormenting people to induce them to change their sexual preference is a misguided
as demanding they grow an extra arm.
God
Religious arguments rarely make any sense logically. Sometimes Christians
will say, God made me straight, thus he must have made you
straight too. Why are you turning away from your essential nature? If there is
a God, he did not make me straight. He made me gay. I have been gay
ever since I was a toddler. I have always had crushes on males. Even as a
preschooler, I had no interest in sex play with girls, just boys. That
is my essential nature. If this postulated God could create females
who are attracted to males, who’s to say he is incapable of making a few males
who are too?
The Parable of the Arrogant Christian
There was once a very rich Christian
who bought an entire island and set himself up as king. Tourists came to look at
gardens and natural wonders of the island. He convinced Baskin and Robbins to set up
an ice cream franchise outlet on the condition they served only one flavour,
Maraschino Cherry Custard, his favourite flavour. He arranged
various punishments such as stocks, burning alive and stoning to death for people
caught on the island sampling any other flavour. He explained that according to the
bible (Luke 11:12
), Maraschino Cherry Custard was the one true flavour of ice cream,
and eating any other was an insult to God. The king was horrified to find that many
people so detested Maraschino Cherry Custard, that they avoided eating ice cream
altogether. In the king’s view, clearly preference in ice cream flavours was a
choice and so he had the heretics tortured to convince
them to not only eat Maraschino Cherry Custard ice cream but to like it.
The only unnatural sex act is that which you cannot perform.
~ Alfred Kinsey (1894-06-23 1956-08-25 age:62)
Arguments
Bigots like to claim being gay is a choice, that it is like having
a ring installed in your nose. This helps them justify persecuting gays. You will
notice the people who make this claim also assert they have are not gay themselves
and that they refuse to socialise with gays. So how would they know? Ask any gay
person, who obviously knows first hand and they will tell you there is no possible
way they could just choose a different sexual preference. Here are some arguments you
can use to counter the bigots:
- If I chose to be gay, then you, chose not to be gay. This is not the same thing
as choosing to have sex with members of the same sex. This is choosing whether or
not to be sexually attracted to them. So you should be able to demonstrate it is a
choice, by choosing to be gay for 5 minutes. You
don’t have to act on it, just choose to be attracted to people of the same
sex. God will forgive you. If you are honest, you will have to admit you cannot do
it. If you can’t change your orientation by an act of will,
what makes you think I can?
- Most young gays consider suicide because they can’t make themselves
straight. They can’t stand all that hatred and violence directed at them.
Obviously, if they could choose to be straight they would take it. Only later do
they realise there is nothing wrong with them and accept that which cannot change.
This is not like getting a nose ring to piss off your parents or impress others
with how cool you are. You desperately try to hide your orientation from everyone.
Given how cruel people are to young gays, choosing to be gay would be like choosing
to have acne.
- If being gay is a choice, then surely heterosexuality is also a choice.
Choosing would be a major event in one’s life. Do you recall ever making that
choice? Of course, not. It is just when you were going through puberty you suddenly
noticed a new powerful drive inside yourself that swept you off your feet and makes
you shake with unbearable lust. That sexual attraction drives you, not the reverse.
There was no choice involved. It just happened to you as a side effect of an
hormone overdose. You could have a cold shower, but you could not turn off the
overwhelming preoccupation with your sexual attraction. If you could not turn off
your heterosexual attraction, why do imagine I can turn off my equally intense
homosexual one?
- You arrogant prick! You don’t know the first thing about homosexuality or
what it is like to be gay. Why do you fancy yourself more of an expert on the
matter than I am, who have lived through it? You are just parroting some bigoted
tripe you picked off a website like Paul
Cameron, a defrocked psychologist.
- Read the books written by the Christians who claim to cure gays. All can do is
persuade people to cut down on how much sex they have with the same sex by white
knuckling it. They don’t even claim to eliminate the attraction. They
convince gays to marry. Then that ruins the life of an innocent women, who are
always second fiddle in their husband’s attraction. Whether
you have sex is a conscious choice. But even then the drive usually overwhelms any
resolution. Whom you are attracted to is not. Being gay is about
whom you are attracted to, not whom you have sex with. Many straight men in prison
have sex with other men. But all during that time they are fantasising about
women.
Think of all the people you find irresistibly attractive. Did this just happen
unconsciously, or did you get out a spread sheet and calculate the advantages of
all the people you have encountered and compute the ones with the most advantages
should you get together and consciously decide which ones to be attracted to?
The question is silly. So why do you think we gays consciously choose whom we
are attracted to? Why would we be any different from you?
Most males have a
type. For argument‘s sake, let’s presume yours is
tall-slim-red-heads. If your preference were a conscious choice, you should be
able to change yourself so that short-plump-black-haired people would be the ones
you found attractive and you would completely lose your attraction to tall slim
red-heads. I have never heard of any straight person with that ability, so why do
you imagine we gays have an even more powerful version of it, able to change our
preferred type and gender?Other people’s preferences are baffling. The boy who lives next door
plays music that sounds like someone banging on pipes with a hammer. Much as I
can’t conceive of myself enjoying this music, intellectually I accept that
he must enjoy it, otherwise, why would he be playing it?
Christians when confronting gays say to themselves, I would not enjoy that, so
you shouldn’t either. You should do what I do, even if you find it
revolting. You should just adjust, so that you no longer find it revolting any
more. It is part of their the universe revolves around
me attitude. They imagine whatever they think or feel is the way God wants
people to think and feel. Their claimed exclusive handle on the mind of God gives
them the right to impose it on others.
Normally, when A forces sex acts on B, that B finds repulsive, we call it rape
or sexual harassment and use the law to stop A from doing that. However,
Christians have special dispensation to do this to gays because they are in the
majority. They are even permitted to call on others to kill gays as part of their
tyranny.
- Being gay is like living in a society that has a strong taboo against having
sex with one’s own species. Not only does that society demand you leave your
own species (either gender) alone, but that you must couple with pigs, cats, dogs,
goats, snakes, sheep… Mind your own business you lunatics!!!
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