cause of homosexuality : Gay & Black Glossary

Teens can be vicious to each other. Sometimes these experiences are so traumatic, a young person can decide they want no more to do with the entire gender that gave him/her a rough time.

Sometimes it starts as admiration for a member of the same sex who possesses desired traits. For me, it did not register my attraction was homosexual. I just figured it was a natural appreciation of my friend who was extraordinarily handsome. It was his appearance, not my attraction. It was quite a shock when it dawned on me that other people considered the light of my life considered unspeakably wicked.

Everyone forgets that we start out gay. Boys socialise with boys and girls with girls. Boys consider a boy who socialises with girls as unmanly. Girls consider a girl who socialises with boys as a tomboy. It is a tribal sort of thing, much the way people of the same skin colour feel a loyalty to the tribe. This is our original state. Around puberty, males usually develop an interest in young females, a group with quite different social customs and interests. Heterosexuality is a triumph of hormones over common interests.

Oddly our society considers it manly if married men prefer to spend the bulk of their spare time in the company of fellow males for shared activities like hunting, fishing and sports, so long as sex is not involved. Bigots tolerate males prefering male company. They will even tolerate males living as a couple, but draw the line at sex.