premature ejaculation : Gay & Black Glossary
- premature ejaculation
Coming too quickly, before you or your partner has had time to enjoy themselves. It
often results from surreptitious masturbation, where you learn to do it quickly to
avoid detection. Part of the treatment is to teach you how to masturbate slowly, not
using fantasies, but rather concentrating on sensations. It can be treated much like
impotence. You use drugs that force you to maintain an erection no matter how many
times you come. You learn how to take your time in sex, learning to enjoy all the
other sensuous forms that don’t lead to immediate orgasm, such as massage.
Premature ejaculation is almost never a problem for gay males. Why is that?
- If you are getting a blow job, the guy giving the blow job can easily tell if
you are coming close to orgasm and it is up to him to back off, until he wants you
- If you are getting screwed, the screwer will give you little or no penile
stimulation until he wants you to come.
- If you are screwing, you have to go very slowly at first to avoid hurting the
screwee. Once you are over the initial hump, there is little risk of premature
ejaculation. Further, the awkwardness of entry tends to be a slight turnoff.