Core Beliefs
©1996-2009 Roedy Green, Canadian Mind Products
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recommend book⇒Gathering Power Through Insight and Love |
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| ISBN13: | 978-0-915972-13-5 |
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| publisher: | Love Line |
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| published: | 1993-01-01 |
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| by: | Ken Keyes Jr. with Penny Keyes |
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| gets down to the brass tacks. All the various exercises you can use to help get rid of addictions. |
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Ken
does his deepest discussion of core beliefs in Gathering Power Through
Insight and Love.
Core beliefs are hardened, rock-like thoughts and assumptions usually based on
early choices and decisions than are likely long forgotten. Core beliefs are
lies about yourself that you have swallowed e.g. "I am unlovable", "I
am ugly", "I am totally incompetent". They then shore up
thousands of addictions. You can go after core beliefs directly with
consciousness focusing using a phrase such as "I am beautiful, capable
and lovable". Using a click counter (sold in stationery stores for
counting people going into a theatre), you can say that phrase 1000
times a day as you walk or jog.
A similar exercise is to alternate that phrase with the sixth pathway.
- "I am beautiful, capable and lovable"
- I accept myself completely here and now and consciously experience everything
I feel, think, say, and do (including my emotion backed addictions) as a
necessary part of my growth into higher consciousness.
- click
Possible Destructive Core Beliefs
About Yourself
- Bad things I’ve done are not forgivable.
- I can’t do it.
- I can’t have what I want.
- I don’t deserve happiness.
- I don’t deserve love.
- I don’t deserve pleasure.
- I don’t fit in.
- I fail no matter how hard I try.
- I have to suffer in some way to receive love.
- I have to yell to get anyone to listen.
- I must earn love to deserve it.
- I must hide my true feelings.
- I must please others to be worthy.
- I’ll never live up to my parents’ expectations.
- I’m a bad person.
- I’m boring.
- I’m clumsy.
- I’m not a loving person.
- I’m not a worthwhile person.
- I’m not as smart as others so I’m no good.
- I’m not capable.
- I’m not creative.
- I’m not important.
- I’m not lovable.
- I’m not respected.
- I’m not supposed to have fun.
- I’m stupid.
- I’m ugly.
- It’s bad to grow old.
- It’s bad to grow up.
- It’s not okay to feel good.
- My opinions aren’t wanted.
- My thoughts are dumb.
- To be lovable I must always agree.
About the World
- If I’m happy, something bad will happen.
- Life is full of stress and overload.
- Life is hard.
- Life is unfair.
- Men/women are tough, scary, angry, etc.
- People are always trying to con me.
- People are out to get me.
- People don’t want to listen to me.
- The world is an unhappy place.
- The world isn’t a safe place.
- The world owes me a living.
- The world won’t survive and neither will I.
About Relationships
- A relationship will only work with the right person.
- All the good people are already in relationships.
- Divorce is a sin/a failure.
- Even if I try to explain, I won’t be heard.
- I can’t attract/keep a good person.
- I can’t win so I might as well get even.
- I don’t have what it takes to make a relationship work.
- I have to have a beautiful/handsome body to be desirable.
- I have to protect/defend my partner.
- I have to take what I can get.
- I must control my partner.
- I need my partner.
- I take away the energy of the person I’m with.
- I’m a loser.
- I’m not meant to have a relationship.
- If I love I will be hurt.
- If s/he really knew me, s/he wouldn’t be interested.
- It is my job to improve my partner.
- It means something about me if my partner is attractive/unattractive.
- It means something about me if my relationship doesn’t last.
- I’ll get hurt if I get too close in a relationship.
- I’ll never do it right.
- I’ll never find the right person.
- Marriage is a trap.
- Men/women want only one thing.
- My family must approve of my relationship.
- My partner can’t get by without me.
- Others know what’s best for me.
- People I depend on will let me down.
- Relationships are hard.
- Relationships don’t last.
- Romance is only for the young.
- S/he Is just after my money.
- S/he doesn’t accept me for who I am.
- S/he doesn’t understand me.
- S/he is supposed to take care of me.
- S/he should support me.
- The one I love will abandon me.
- We should enjoy doing the same things.
- What my partner says/does means something about me.
- Women/men can’t be trusted.
You just keep going every day until it looses its punch. Eventually the phrase
just feels too obvious to bother repeating. It typically might take a week. If
nothing happens after two weeks, you probably have a phrase you too far from
your current beliefs. It is just not plausible. You are not even intellectually
buying it. Try a weaker phrase that is more believable, or try something
more specific. You are trying to bite off too big a chunk of your programming at
once. The alternative is just keep plugging.
The Laws Governing Core Beliefs
Core beliefs are hard for you to detect because they seem like blatantly obvious
Truth. Your brain automatically filters out and forgets any counter evidence,
and carefully retains any supporting evidence for the belief. You will always
attempt to prove to the world that the core belief is not true, while
simultaneously trying to prove to yourself that it is true. There are three laws
governing core beliefs:
- The law of Attraction : You will tend to attract
people to you who will act according to your belief, e. g. you will tend to seek
out or attract people who will tell you that you are ugly.
- The law of Projection : You interpret other’s
behaviour to be what you believe, e. g. if anyone rejects you, it must be because
you are too ugly.
- The law of Manifestation : You set others up
to act as you believe. You put others in situations where they are likely to say
that you are ugly.
The good news is, once you change your core beliefs, your experience changes to
match. Changing core beliefs is quite difficult. It feels like lying to yourself.
It helps to get objective feedback from others to help you crack them. It may
well be true you are not in the same league with Denzel Washington, but you are
not so ugly no one could love you.
The main technique for repropgramming core beliefs is consciousness
focussing with a phrase that counters the core belief.
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