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How To Give Blow Jobs

Introduction

Tips

• Everyone is different. Pay attention to the reaction you are getting. If he is getting harder and breathing faster, you are doing it right — to hell with the theory. If his penis is getting softer and he is yawning and looking around lazily, you are not doing it right. Some people need the lightest of touches, others want you to chomp down with your teeth. Some like it ultra-slow, others want you to simulate chipmunk-fucking speed.
• The basic technique is to simulate the way a guy masturbates. If ever he masturbates for you, watch very carefully. Most important, look for his preferred cadence. If you don’t get the rhythm right you won’t get anywhere. Does he touch one part more than another? Does he work the tip or the entire shaft, or both, and in what proportion? Which side of the penis does he favour? Simulate that action as best you can with your mouth.
• When a guy is about to come you can increase speed and increase pressure. Don’t overdo it, though.
• Study the penis. If it is uncircumcised, be very gentle. If it has ridges or callouses, be very rough.
• In group sex situations, let other guys look after his mouth and nipples.
• Experiment with various techniques, starting light and see what he likes.
• Run the tongue around the shaft in a circular motion, pressing toward the centre.
• Tickle the penis hole with your tongue. Some people even like you to gently nibble the tip.
• Take a breath and try to swallow the cock right to the root, pressing your mouth hard onto his body, continuing to try to swallow it. Actively swallowing will suppress the gag reflex and let you go right down to the root. Nibble away gently at the root of the penis, continuing to swallow using your throat to pull on the penis. Marijuana, to some extent, suppresses the gag reflex. If you learn with it, the skill can then later be used without the drug.
• With practice, you can even swallow 27.94 cm (11 in) if you get your head angle right. Some guys have a natural bend to their cocks. Attack from an angle so the bend fits the natural curve of your throat. For inspiration, note the fascination the public has with sword swallowers. You might even read up on their techniques.
• Enjoy the feel of the penis with your tongue. Get into how pleasant it feels and tastes. This will instinctively guide you to lick effectively. Don’t do it half-heartedly, as if it were something dirty. 90% of giving an excellent blow job is enjoying yourself enthusiastically.
• Increase pressure by pressing the penis toward the roof of your mouth with your tongue. Be careful to monitor so you don’t hurt him.
• Shave your face carefully against the grain, lathering twice. Then pull your lips in over your teeth as if you were a toothless old granny. You can put a lot of pressure on this way, but if you have any stubble it will hurt like hell.
• Stop periodically to lick the balls, legs and the rest of the body. Leonard Cohen, in his song Thin Green Candle suggests lovers should tarnish the golden rule. You don’t give a guy exactly what he wants. You always give him a little less to increase his desire. Teasing this way takes great skill so as not to make him lose interest. I would not suggest it on your first try. To start, keep doing it, if he likes it.
• If you are into Olympic sex (making a guy come many times), the technique is to use a perfectly steady rhythmn and make the guy lie perfectly still, not reciprocating in any manner. Even when he comes, you do not stop, or if he pries you off, start again very soon, sucking the cock soft if need be. Many guys can come up to ten times this way. They are astounded to find out about their latent talent. They are also utterly exhausted. Each orgasm becomes more and more intense to the point of pain.
• Gingerly explore the anus. If a guy will let you insert your finger, you can feel his prostate. It is situated at the front. It swells like a golf ball when he is about to come. The excitation state of the prostate can be very useful information because some penises go slightly soft just before they come, and you might be tempted to back off. You must be careful not to give someone more anal stimulation than they want. Some guys want none at all. Some want you just to rest a finger on the outside. Some guys come from touching the prostate alone. Generally, the looser the anus the more likely it is the guy enjoys comcomitant anal stimulation. Anal stimulation is a whole other essay. Quite often guys who refuse anal stimulation on the grounds it is not manly or it is dirty will go absolutely wild if you attempt it just prior to orgasm. On the other hand, you could totally put him off. It is a bit of a gamble.
• Since giving the perfect blow job takes much trial and error, you will do your best work if you have the same partner time after time, whom you get to know inside and out.
• If you have false teeth, take them out. There are quite a few guys who seek out older men simply on the hope they might be able to remove their teeth, and provide strong pressure with their gums.
• How do you breathe with a penis in your throat? You can’t! However, there are several ways to deal with this.
  1. Don’t push the penis so far into your throat that it blocks off the air.
  2. Hold your breath for 30 seconds or so, then take a breather.
  3. Play 4-cycle engine: in-breath, down, up, out-breath, down, up, in-breath… You can alternate this with periods of just holding your breath, especially for an extended nibble at the root.
• Don’t be shy about using your hands as well. Some guys can’t come without that additional pressure. One technique is to use one flat hand to cover the entire pubic hair region, with the thumb on the underside of the penis. Pull your hand down, stroking the pubic region, and move up the shaft, encircling it in one smooth motion, toward the tip. For guys with exceptionally long penises, use two hands so that you stimulate the entire shaft, even the parts you can’t comfortably reach with your mouth. Some guys get very turned on when you simulate a very tight anal sphincter with your hands, forming a narrow band of strong pressure that travels up and down the penis.
• If your partner seems to be losing interest, he may simply have become numb from too much slow stimulation. Switch to to stimulating some other parts of the body and give his penis a rest. When you come back to the penis, try upping your tempo, and go for a quick finish, using your hand as well to increase stimulation.
• Quite often when you have had a difficult time bringing a guy to orgasm, when he finally does come, he will go into paroxysms, flopping and spasming like a fish out of water. It is a pleasure almost too intense. Don’t give up. On the other hand, don’t go for orgasm right out the gate. It can be very offputting, as if you could hardly wait for the sex to be over. If you give the impression you are pushing for orgasm this will often give the guy performance anxiety, and he will completely forget to enjoy himself.
• If a guy has trouble getting an erection and you are doing everything else right, try encircling the base of his penis with your thumb and forefinger to keep any blood that does get into the penis from leaving. This creates the illusion of an erection which is often sufficient psychologically to induce the real thing. You are effectively creating a cock ring to help maintain his erection.
• It is perfectly normal for the guy to be having some extreme sex fantasy while you blow him. Don’t expect him to focus on you, just the pleasant sensations you provide him. If you glean any clues to what that fantasy is, play along with it in your movements.
• This is a little hard to describe, but you grab and squeeze the guy’s penis with the muscles far in the back of your throat while you simultaneously milk the root of his penis with your lips. This is not quite the same thing as swallowing his penis, though the effect is similar. I only discovered this recently. It drives guys wild.
• I save the best and flakiest for last. I have discovered what you think about while you give the guy a blow job tremendously influences his pleasure. Perhaps there is some mild ESP going on. Perhaps your thoughts are transmitted in subtle differences in the way you move. Perhaps this little game just helps keep you turned on. While you are giving the blow job, focus on each of these thoughts in turn until you find one he resonates with. It will be very obvious when you hit it.
  • That he is a variety of ages 0 to 100.
  • That you are a variety of ages 0 to 100.
  • That he is a horse, minotaur, centaur, dog, donkey, gorilla, chimpanzee, whale, dolphin, woman…
  • That you are a horse, minotaur, centaur…
  • That he is your grandfather, father, brother, school teacher, slave…
  • That you are his grandather, father,…
  This is just to get you started. Use your imagination. Since these are just thoughts, there is no need to censor them to the legal or socially acceptable. If later your partner asks what you did that turned him on so strongly, think twice before being 100% truthful. It can really freak someone out to discover you were using an incest fantasy.

Links

• Liberated Christians history and advice.
• Sexuality.org tutorial.